|Posted by Rashatta Daugett on June 21, 2014 at 9:30 PM|
After being a wife for 11 years, the meaning of the word “submit” has evolved greatly in my understanding and application of it in my life. I know, I know, this word has been the pink elephant in the room between men and women for some time now. Allow me to share what the Lord has revealed to me in my life concerning this word.
When I was first married, I was very excited to begin to put into practice the “wifely” duties I had studied the scripture concerning for so long prior to getting married. I was genuinely in love with the idea of just doing the word of God. However, we live in this thing called flesh, and it was much harder to put into practice than I realized. It took 11 years to really come to what I believe is a complete understanding of submission.
The scripture teaches us wives to submit ourselves unto our husbands as unto the Lord.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Ephesians 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
You see, it is in our humble submission that we are most influential to our husbands and even other Godly men around us. When you are a woman who respects the God given authority of a man you receive their utmost admiration and respect. When you have that, the words you speak to them actually matter to them and don’t sound like the clammerings of a rebellious woman. Even if a man is not fully acquainted with his God-given authority, you can rest assure that your rebellion will still cause problems within him. He just won’t understand what the cause is.
Wives, I encourage you, if you have a husband, trust God for your husband and submit your will to his as you would if God was standing right in front of you and asking you to do it Himself. See if the entire atmosphere in your house doesn’t change.
Now, on another note, single women, especially those with children; I liken you to the widows of the biblical days. It was very uncommon in biblical times to have a woman with children who was not a widow. But these are not the times we live in anymore. The example set forth in scripture as it pertains to the care for such women is very clear. The men of the family are to care for them as their own. Now we don’t see this happen in this day and time and it is very hard to understand and perceive how such a concept works because in all actuality, men have trouble taking care of their own family and children; let alone someone else’s. However, ladies, when you do have a Godly man that is willing to take on the responsibility and care for you and your children, the wisest thing for you to do is submit to that man’s God-given authority. It will bring you and your children more good, than harm.
Scripture teaches that the head of every woman is the man and the head of every man is Christ.
1Coritnians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman [is] the man; and the head of Christ [is] God.
I strongly encourage you to read all the way down to verse 17
With this understanding, you must know that God will not have His Godly women un-covered. He will provide a covering for you until you are found by the man he has ordained to cover you for the rest of your life in husbandry. To rebel against the one God has sent to watch and cover you and your children places you in danger of rebuke from God, especially if this man is a man of God. The order of God has been established and etched in stone since the beginning of creation and will not change because of situations and circumstances of life. The disobedience of most does not set the precedence for what is right and wrong in the body of Christ. A man’s job is to hear from the Lord and cover those the Lord has given him charge over in the love, correction and instruction he receives from Jesus Christ himself.
Also, please know, that if you are in such a position and are rebellious with male children, your example will teach them to accept a rebellious woman in their lives, because they will marry their mother. Only, Only, Only, Only can a man of God teach a young man how to be a man of God. It is not God’s order or will to have women training up men in the ways of man-hood. Yes, it is prevalent. Yes, it is hard to find Godly men to take such responsibility. But my point is that when you have it, don’t despise the authority.
The truth of the matter is that the same Holy Spirit that leads and guides that man’s steps in righteousness will also lead and guide that man on how and what your son or sons need in order to be used by God. The Holy Spirit knows what is needed far beyond what you even know. It is God who has the hairs on their head numbered. This is even more so important if the man who seeks to care and instruct your son is also your pastor, for he is given an even greater responsibility towards you and your children outside of being just a brother; to watch for you and your children’s souls.
God holds pastors and other men in leadership to a much higher standard. But He also instructs us as followers to be obedient so that we don’t make their jobs hard and that our disobedience harms us. If you can’t trust and rely that your pastor is a man who seeks to please God in his life first and therefore will do well in ruling the sheep of God as an under-Sheppard in your local church, then I strongly suggest you find another church to fellowship with. However, if your pastor’s conduct is righteous in the sight of the Lord and His scripture, than what is the reall problem you have with submitting?
Hebrews: 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that [is] unprofitable for you.
I know in light of the whole Eddie Long story and many others like it, it is hard to trust anyone with the rearing and training of our children. But if we go back to the foundation, our Holy Scriptures, we find remedy for such things. The problem is that we have gathered leaders unto ourselves that don’t fit God’s order. And when you do such things, you get results we see over and over again in the news concerning spiritual leaders. However, if you have studied the word of God, than you also know the responsibilities of those who are in leadership in the local assembly. You understand the difference in the fruit of a man who truly lives his life following the Spirit and who simply claims to live his life following after the Spirit. We must all try the fruit, but once the fruit is tried and found true, submit.
Hebrews 13:7 Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of [their] conversation.
Submission is a hard thing for women in our time, it requires an even greater loss of one’s will that most are un-willing to lose. See, we are constantly bombarded with the notion that we can do it all by ourselves and we don’t need a man for anything; not even to make a baby anymore. However, in Christ, we know that the role of the man is very important and is needed. He is the head. And ladies, if you find yourself blessed enough to be connected to a head that has a direct tap into Christ than you rest and allow the Lord to teach you, guide you, and demonstrate His love for you through the head he has placed in your life. I can promise you that the joy of the Lord will abound greatly in your life when you do.
Whether you are a single woman or a wife, let us remember the ultimate example of submission, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ that night in the garden praying to His Father asking to have the task set before him removed. But, instead, nevertheless, not my will but Thy will be done! Ultimate submission….
Other Scriptures to consider and ponder:
Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward [adorning] of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, [even the ornament] of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Let us all grow in our faith in our Lord and Savior as we put into practice His Holy Scripture!